How to move on – The best article

People say “move on” but how can you? How not to feel a failure? or inept? How to “deal” with Life?
The term “moving on” can be subject to varying interpretations. What do we really mean by moving on? It certainly shouldn’t suggest that we can simply erase an event or relationship that is disagreeable, but that we shouldn’t remain mired in it either. For example, the unloving parent remains our parent, and the end of their life doesn’t end the pain or anguish of abuse.
I’ve worked with people who are very challenged at handling such situations. At times, they consider complete detachment from the neglectful or abusive parent – as though they weren’t alive. At other times, such individuals may alter their expectations so as to deal more effectively with the sad, yet realistic, circumstances. In all such scenarios, I recommend finding and expressing your voice. Whether your parent can validate or appreciate your feelings should not influence your need to articulate yourself. This is an exercise in self-value.
As for the case of the spouse who is delaying the conclusion of a divorce, this should not stand in your way of furthering your emotional divorce. The legal act of divorce often isn’t sufficient anyway. Many divorced people continue their emotional entanglement well after they are divorced. In this case, moving on would likely look like taking your own responsibility for your well being and happiness. Divorce should serve as an opportunity for accountability. Ask yourself, “Why did I choose to marry this person?” and reflect on your personal participation in the process.
Moving on doesn’t delete the past, but it enables us to transcend the disquiet as we embrace the learning opportunities. It’s really a matter of integrating the disappointment, sorrow and injustices of life, so they no longer serve as impediments, but as the foundation of our growth.
Many Quotes say: The past will be forever with us but we have gone through it… it’s time to live the present and think about the future! You’ve got to be moving on.